Be What You Are MEANT To Be

When we were kids, the older usually asked "When you grow up, what do you want to be?"

That question is tricky, seems like we should think and decide what we are going to be.. But when we grow up, we should face the reality.. If you have decided what you want to do and you have done that pretty well, then lucky you.. I wish you can keep up your good work..

But most people are not as lucky as that.. Some of those have tried doing what they really want to do but they fail.. Some can't do what they want because of personal matter, like a family condition, economic situation, or any personal problems.. But the worst are those who can't do what they want because the objection by someone else, usually parents..

Then, what should they do?

1. Keep persistent. If you have the chance to do what you really want to do but then you fail once, keep persistent with what you're doing. By having a chance to feel the pain of failing, you have the chance to learn more. Remember, there are no success without any fail.

2. Know when to let go. You also have to know when you should let it go. What I mean is that you should know how much you can endure. If you have done everything you can do but you still fail, then maybe that is not your destiny. You should looking for other option. It's not a big deal, actually, young people often make mistakes. And who in this world never made any mistake? At least you have done your best and trying. It's better to fail after trying than never try at all. By letting go, you'll gain more. If you never let go, you'll gain nothing.

3. Solve your problems. If you can't do what you want because of other problems, then you should solve it first. If the problem is family condition, you should have a good conversation with your family member. For example, if your dad sick and you can't leave home to take care of him, then you should have a good conversation with him. You can try dividing your time to take care of him while doing your job. Or if it's possible, you can do the work at home. But if it's economic situation you face, then you should think about other option. For example, if you want to study abroad, you can try searching for scholarship. Or maybe you can try to find the major you want to study in your hometown. Although perhaps it's not that good but I believe the true quality depends on yourself.

4. Know yourself. I know a lot of people who don't have confident with themselves. They often get afraid with something that will be faced in the future. Hey, come on, who knows the future? But of course we should be prepared well.. Before starting your life adventure, first, you should know yourself. You should know, what are your abilities, skills, and personality. Then make sure yourself that by all you have, you can do it. And don't forget to think positively. That will raise your confident. Remember, the biggest enemy in life is ourselves.

5. Say your opinion. Many parents often object what their child want to do. They often take their child's ideas as day-dreams who will not come true. But who knows, isn't it? That's why you should say your opinion (as long as it makes sense) to your parents. If you didn't say anything, they will not know what you are thinking and they just think as their own opinion. If you have said what you should've said but it's still not working, you can ask help from your other relatives. Tell them your opinion and ask them to tell it to your parents. But of course, you should also listen to your parent's opinion. I believe they think what's best for you so don't ignore it. You can consider it too.

6. Prove that you can. One of the reason why parents like to object their child's ideas is because they don't believe that their child can. So, make your parents know that you really have the ability to do that and not only day-dreaming. If you only talk without proving yourself, your parents will never believe in you. I've read a book before, it's said that parents will always treat their children as a kid, regardless of age.

7. Be what you are meant to be. This is the hardest, because we never know what we are meant to be. But that doesn't mean you can't do this. This thing needs time to come true. What you should do is expressing yourself. Do what you love and follow your passion, do that not only for yourself but also for the people around you. By expressing yourself, life can lead you to your destiny and you can be what you are meant to be.

Finally, hope I can motivate and inspire you. Wish you a good luck in your life. Remember to always smile. You'll never know how magical a smile is. :)